During a two-hour phone call earlier this week, Charise and I agreed that our theme word for the current state of our lives is effortless. This doesn’t mean we aren’t working hard and puttin’ in dat sweat, because we are. But it does mean that our work, our ambitions, our goals, and the changes we’re making in our lives have happened naturally and easily. It also means that rather than thinking about/analyzing our lives on a minute-by-minute basis, we are simply living it.
Living it could also be translated to being in the present, feeling grounded, and living in the flow. Me? Grounded?! Apparently a summer’s worth of root chakra healing exercises have worked because I now feel more present than ever. When I recently spoke with my therapist, we both noticed that our discussion felt more like catching up and storytelling rather than a therapy session. I left her office feeling happy to connect with her, but convinced more than ever that things are moving right along in an effortless way.
One of the major lessons I’ve learned about myself this summer is how prone I am to worrying — worrying about financial issues that don’t exist, houses I don’t own yet, years of my life that are still decades away, degrees I haven’t attained yet, etc. I also understand how I worry about my life being meaningful at every moment of every day — the other side of the double-edged sword of purpose being a core value of mine — and I realize that I’ve let FOMO rob so much from me. Owning this truth about myself, I’ve learned to slow down and observe around me. Sometimes I don’t have to say or do anything.
It’s important, of course, to acknowledge the extremes: we know there’s a fine line between living in a state of effortlessness and being a wallflower who eats handfuls of pot gummies all day long. I ain’t tryna tell you how to live your life, but if you’re like me, you have found that the energy of the universe physically places your body where you need to be, and that is the place where you should pay attention. Why here? Why now? Presence through observation is not passivity; it is learning. What are you learning from the people around you? The nature around you? From yourself around you?
If this seems confusing to you, try this: open up your journal (or even phone notes) and start writing or typing whatever you hear. If you don’t hear anything, write whatever you’re thinking. Your mind, body, and spirit are willing to take the burden off of you to make your own meaning of your everyday life as long as you just let them. You might find some interesting insights that don’t make sense right now, and that’s okay. The point is to understand you don’t always have to be in control. Sometimes you get to sit back and enjoy(!) the vast universe around you.