I believe most people on this earth have a fear of death. Even if you accept death as natural, even if your worldview makes death seem like a beginning rather than an ending, even if you feel death is an escape of pain, you can still fear the process of your body shutting down and not knowing what the hell comes after.
I remember many nights in middle school in which I kept myself up all night with the anxiety of not knowing. My Catholic upbringing painted a clear picture of me waiting in a terrifying purgatory, only to be tossed up to the pearly gates or sentenced to a seat on Satan’s flaming lap for eternity. No wonder all of us betches are afraid.
Journey of Souls by Dr. Michael Newton revolutionized my way of being and baptized me into metaphysical spiritualism. In the first pages of his book, Dr. Newton explicitly discusses our fear of “what happens next” and introduces a new theory of “life between lives” that’s left not only me, but many of my friends, in a state of existential comfort. Why? Because Dr. N, according to his hypnotherapy (lose the judgey face and just read the damn book), describes an alternative that I’ll outline here:
- Soul leaves body after death and follows “the light” (typically described in death stories).
- Soul reunites with members of its soul group (group of souls that often incarnate together throughout lifetimes; these could be partners, siblings, etc.–the most intimate of all soul connections).
- Soul reunites with spirit guides (we’ve briefly mentioned our spirit guides in our Lessons Learned from Psychics Past podcast)–this is the main coach, mentor, etc. from the other side).
- Soul meets with the Council of Elders to review the soul’s progress in its most recent reincarnation (the life it just left). The Council reviews the learning goals the soul created right before reincarnation. This is not a “hearing” or a judgmental purgatory. Many souls realize they have not met their goals (like, many, many), so the soul will repeat many of the goals again. Dis called karma.
- Soul studies in “school” libraries (of course, none of this is physical–it’s soul land) until it feels it has rested, gained information and knowledge, reconnected with soul group and spirit guide, and is ready to incarnate again.
- Soul meets to select its new life in a “screening room” in which elder spirits preview different life options the soul may choose. Each will still carry the same karmic benefits, but will vary in terms of the body in which it incarnates. Since time is relative, the soul sees entire lives in this “meeting” – this is déja vu, y’all – the reason we feel like we’ve seen/experienced something before.
- Soul chooses new life and incarnates into a body.
To state the obvious, this timeline rocked my world. So you’re telling me that I won’t be punished, I can reunite with loved ones, I can learn more, and have autonomy over the course of my reincarnations? Suddenly, death made sense. Suddenly, I began to consider the idea that my life away from earth was my “real” life–my consistent life–and Earth was like a vacation.
The steps I outlined above are explained in significant detail–it’s an entire book–and what struck me as most fascinating was that many of these steps are comparable with other faith traditions’ conceptions of death and moving on. It seems far-fetched if you think about it too long, but if you are open-minded to souls and spirit being wise and powerful, it ain’t that hard to believe.
With that said, it’s not like I’m excited to die, and when someone very close to me on this Earth passes one day–and it will be many days–I will mourn and grieve not because I think I’ll never “see” them again, but because I can’t see them now. I can simultaneously anticipate the day our souls recognize each other up in spirit land and we polish off three bottles of wine in our epic reunion. I really do believe it will happen. I believe it’s going to happen when it’s supposed to happen. And, thanks to my spirituality and the ideas introduced by Dr. N, I believe I’m not afraid of it.