The Exhausted Empath: A Novel


Type “being an empath” into a google search. The first thing that comes up is:


That’s because it’s true. Empathy is the ability to understand and identify with someone’s emotions and energy. An empath is one who absorbs all of this energy on the reg. So yes! Being an empath is EXHAUSTING!

The next search to come up:


Yes, kiddies. We are going to chat about being an empath in a relationship (and not just one type of relationship). How do we (empaths) navigate through this world by balancing all relationships without ending up completely exhausted?  It may seem like an impossible feat, but it is essential to practice these skills before we burn out on human interaction all together.

  • Several posts back, we talked about setting boundaries. If we don’t learn how to set boundaries with others (& this goes for all people, not just some), we burn out. Find out more here.
  • Listen to your body. Absorbing energy puts physical stress on ya, and after a while, that stress takes a toll. Learn some breathing exercises, like this.
  • Reflect on your time with others. Learn who is evoking these emotions and do something about it. More here.
  • Cleanse yourself. You can meditate and use crystals. Spend time in nature.

Once an empath can balance the absorption of all the feelz, a superpower is born. Without this balance, empathy can be more of a burden. Once the balancing act is achieved, an empath can use this strength to channel, connect, and understand others in ways that many struggle to do.  For most of my life, I dreaded social interactions with people, mostly because I did not know how to channel their energy.  It was a toss-up as to what would be thrown at me. Not healthy. As I went through more and more life transitions and more and more therapy, I learned that if I used the steps above ^ as well as a ton of reflective practices, I could use this to my benefit. Because of this, my relationship with my family has changed for the better. My relationship with my gentleman is balanced and healthy. My relationship with myself is more rational, mentally-sound, and fulfilling.

I encourage all of my fellow empaths to start managing. As one of my fav memes says, “Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive.” SO put your wallet back in yo’ purse and figure it out, kittens.


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