Okay. I’m going to get right to the point.
Intuitive people are people-pleasers. Of course, there are always exceptions to this rule, but I know that all of my introspective and intuitive soul friends out there prefer to cause as little conflict as possible. Being understanding of the needs of others is wise, because (yeah, I’ll say it) creating personal wars are dumb. These personal vendettas can haunt people for the rest of their lives. So, without harping on this for too long- y’all gotta let that nonsense go.
BUT. Yes, there’s a BUT. There are exceptions to this no-conflict rule. One of those exceptions is when you are asked to do something that invalidates your moral code. Another one of those exceptions is when you want to do something, but you feel guilty/want to avoid conflict so you don’t do it. (I’m aware that I’m not ela-guently explaining this, and I think the reason that I struggle to make this post sound like magic is because intention can be such a frustrating thing to talk about, so I revert back to brazen-15-year-old Charise. Also see: run-on sentences)
I am the queen of people-pleasing. I’m the oldest child. The golden child. The one who can do no wrong. The academic. The example-setter. Gross. Maybe that’s why, several years ago, I needed to ask those hard questions. What am I doing with my life? Do I even like what I’m doing now? Do I like my job? Who am I doing this for? Am I dating him because I like him, or because I don’t want to hurt his feelings? Am I scared to get that tattoo because of the fear of pain, or because I’m afraid of what my family will say? Yes, those questions.
At one point or another, you will ask yourself, who am I doing this for? And if the answer ain’t you, try again. Even if your intentions are pure and just, is it what you really want to be doing? And if it isn’t, is there possibly another solution that can benefit all involved? Chances are, you will find one. The universe likes to help us out with tasks like that. At the end of the day, it’s your happiness on the line. Do w/e the f*@k you want to do, and watch how everyone benefits from your passion and fulfillment.